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Are you CURLIOUS? Do you have curls and you are embracing them along with your silver hair? The Curly Girl Method is one of the best ways to achieve your finest curls. However, it can be challenging, overwhelming, and confusing.  Simply put…I don’t follow all the hard rules for the curly girl method. That’s my main shortcut. I do what I have found works for me and sometimes I start all over, products get “improved” or discontinued, or my hair just says, “enough of that now!” I’ve found through the years it has changed for me several times.


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Curly Girl: The Handbook

Silver Hair: Say Goodbye to the Dye and Let Your Natural Light Shine: A Handbook

When Lorraine Massey first wrote her book Curly Girl: The Handbook back in 2002 I was absolutely stoked to find it in the bookstore. I grabbed two copies, even, because I knew right away that I would be sharing with other Curly Sisters. In addition, I purchased the revision. Then I got her latest book, Silver Hair: Say Goodbye to the Dye and Let Your Natural Light Shine: A Handbook, as soon as it came out.§

I tried all the DevaCurl products when they came out, and much to my dismay not a single one of them worked for me. I ended up with straight hair. However, through lots of product purchases and trial and error and a ton of product returns. At one point, I had a spreadsheet of all the brands I had tried and why I loved them or hated them. It included things like smell, texture, price and if it made me itch or not. I figured out some things on this journey that I tell any Curly Girl (CG) when she asks me what to do for the CG Method.

Curly Girl Method Shortcuts

First things first, your hair is like a fingerprint no two heads are the same. Texture, density, porosity, moisture retention, coil, wave, dyed, undyed, humidity, even pregnancy and menopause, it all matters it all changes the equation. Speaking of equation that is exactly how you need to treat it…your own personal equation.


Cleanse + Condition + Detangle + Leave-in + Drying Method + Hold = Your Perfect Curl 


These are my top Curly Girl must do’s. The rest depends on what works for you.

    1. Find your shampoo and conditioner that work for you 80% of the time. Why do I say 80%, because 20% of the time you need clarifying products.
    2. Never wash your hair every day. I wash three times a week, if that. If you need a refresh, rinse your hair thoroughly and go from the condition point of your equation.
    3. Never use a brush. Throw it out and only detangle with a wide-tooth comb in the shower with conditioner in your hair.
    4. Never use a terrycloth towel, you want a towel that has no loops and is smooth and soft. Try The Perfect Haircare microfiber towel (get the pink one, the black transfers dye)y.
    5. Never rough up or scrub your hair with a towel. Pat or scrunch dry. Air dry when possible after sopping up most of the water. If you air dry from sopping wet hair it stretches the curl and causes breakage, so always air dry once your hair is slightly damp.
    6. Or learn to plop. I don’t have much luck with this mostly because I’m always in a hurry. LOL
    7. If you must blow dry, blow dry on low to medium heat with a diffuser.
    8. Sulfate and silicone free products are the best for curls. Sulfates are always a NO! But not all silicones are created equal some are water soluble which means they don’t bind to the hair and wash out each shampoo. (PEG prefaced Dimethicones are the safest –cones.) (Dimethicone by itself is one of the worst so remember the difference because it is the most popular in most brands.) If you already have silicone buildup you can remove it with an equal part baking soda and clarifying shampoo mix treatment…just make sure you deep condition after.
    9. Watch for alcohol content, alcohol dries your hair. Not alcohol is created the same though, some are drying alcohols and some are fatty acids that provide moisture.
    10. Read up on what your hair is lacking moisture or protein, and vice versa, read up on what you have too much of. There is such a thing as too much of a good thing.
      a.)  You need to know what curl pattern you have. Many products are now catered to wavy, curly or coily hair, and fine or coarse hair.
      b.)  You can learn about porosity in The Ultimate Guide to Hair Porosity: Does it really matter?
      c.)  You can take this hair texture quiz to get a better idea what hair type you have: Quiz
    12. Applying product is as important as the product itself. I like scrunching in my leave-in and styler, usually in the shower with wet hair. Praying hands method works great as well.
    13. Sleep is important, if you have long hair get Silk Scrunchies and learn to pineapple your hair. Get a silk or satin pillowcase. I have been through my share of these and so far my all-time favorite 100% Silk Pillowcase, it has a zipper and stays in place.
    14. Finally, if you need to wear ponytails, ditch the elastics, rubber bands and any hair tie with metal on it. I have used these seamless ponytail holders for decades and love them. If you cannot find them, you can make them out of baby tights, which I have done when stores go through weird phases of not selling them.

Tried and true things you need to know for curls:

  • Ditching the terrycloth towel and ditching the brush were the biggest helpers for my hair…Stopped the frizz.
  • About the towel, get the kind that doesn’t have loops and isn’t the turban style that sucker will drive you nuts.
  • Think of each curl clump as a family. That family needs to stick together, that is why you need a wide-tooth comb, you never rough up your hair with a towel, or blow-dry without a diffuser.
  • If you need to print this list of Curly Girl approved ingredients take it with you when you go product shopping. You might need a magnifying glass too (I use the one on my iPhone); these labels are getting smaller and smaller print every time. I won’t get started on that though.

Is Oil Curly Girl Safe?

I have been asked several times if QuickSilverHair oil is safe to use with Curly Girl Method, as some believe that Lorraine has stated not to use oils. I reached out to Lorraine Massey to ask her about this because she uses natural oils in her products.

“Hi Lorraine, because I am in the silver hair business and a curly girl I get a lot of questions that you say not to use oils. I know you always leave out mineral oils, but your new product line has natural oils in it. It has always been my understanding that argan, jojoba, marula and a few others are safe for the hair because they mimic natural sebum. Could you clarify for me so I can better answer when this question comes up?” ~Joli

She kindly responded back to me, “Trace amounts of oils built into products that are derived from only the best source and quality makes them rich!! It is the huge slapped on amounts of oil that are mainly mixed with silicones that will make the hair hydrophobic and eventually deficient!! It (the build-up) can make silver hair look yellow!! This is just my opinion.” ~Lorraine

You can use oil for fly-aways, frizz, and there are naturally curly methods of product application that include oil in their method, like LOC, which stands for Liquid (or Leave-In), Oil, Cream, and LCO which switches the order of application on the oil and the cream, you can learn more on that in this great post at

You can read way more on oils that are included in QuickSilverHair Oil and how to spot products that are not actually safe oils to use in this post: Best Oils for your Hair: What’s in QuickSilverHair Oil and Its Uses


A few of my favorite Curly Girl things:

The Perfect Haircare Towel

If you have silver hair get the pink one, the black transfers dye.

Bass Multi-tooth Comb

My favorite wide-tooth comb is great for travel too. I like the fine-tooth side for getting fairy-knots out. I have one in my shower, one on my vanity, and one in my travel bag. It’s that perfect.

Silk Pillowcase

I now have four of these Mulberry Silk Pillowcases, they are the softest silk and they have a zipper so your pillow stays in the case. I wash them and dry them with my normal sheets and they have held up completely fine for several years.

Acure Curiously Clarifying Shampoo and Conditioner

For clarifying, Acure Curiously Clarifying Lemongrass Shampoo & Conditioner.  I really should own stock in Acure for as often as I recommend this product. I absolutely love this for clarifying. I use it about every 10 days and once a month with the QuickSilverHair Clay.


Carol's Daughter Cactus Rose Water, Shampoo and Conditioner Set For Fine Hair

These are my go-to spring to fall products. I use the conditioner as a leave-in as well. Perfect for fine low porosity hair.

AquaBliss High Output Revitalizing Shower Filter

A shower filter can work wonders for curls and silver hair by helping remove some of the minerals and chemicals out of the tap water. This is the one I use because it has a multi-stage filter and a longer lifespan than most shower filters.

Wide-tooth Comb with Handle

And if you prefer a wide-tooth comb with a handle, this version is perfect for detangling in the shower. I keep one these on my bathroom vanity for combing after applying the last of my products to get separate and get bigger curl clumps before scrunching.

Denman Brush

If you like a wet brush you might like trying the Denman brush.

100% Mulberry Silk Large Scrunchies

These silk scrunchies are amazing for pineapples and protecting your hair from breaking and losing curl overnight.

Styling Cream from By The Way Co.

My friends at BY THE WAY, Your Hair Looks Fabulous! make a beautiful line of products for silver hair and most of it is CGM friendly. I encourage you to check out the entire line but I LOVE the Styling Cream mixed with a pump of QuickSilverHair Oil to completely tame the silver sprouts and curly halo.


Life Changing Leave-In Conditioner from The BTW Co.

Life Changing Leave-In Conditioner by The BTW Co. for All Hair Types: Soften Hair, Fight Coarseness, Reduce Frizz, Add Shine – No Silicone. It truly is life changing.

Giovanni’s L.A. Natural Styling Gel

This Gel is a CGM favorite. I love Giovanni’s L.A. Natural Styling Gel.

Coconut Hair Defrizzer & Heat Protector

Silicone free heat protector.

I have been playing with the CG Method for around 17 years, I have had to find what worked for me. Some of what I try is completely not CG Method approved. It was originally a METHOD, not a LAW. So go easy on yourself too, not everything works for everyone. There are a ton of products being marketed to curly girls and they aren’t Curly Girl Method aligned products. There are many manufactures that make a product and label it for curls but it may not be healthy or nourishing to curls so read your labels. And finally, there are some YouTube Influencers that have really fabulous curls, don’t compare your curls to theirs and don’t expect the products that work for them to work for you, the closer their hair type is to yours will mean all the difference. There is also some extreme information out there that is far more about that individual than it is about the general curly girl. KNOW YOUR HAIR TYPE and go for what works for YOU!

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As always it is about so much more than the hair.

Shine On ~Joli





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